How successful has online dating been for you? Jen Friel, who blogs at Blogger of Talk Nerdy to Me Lover, says her experiment has been a combination of success and ultimate failure. I spoke with her at the TechCrunch Disrupt in San Francisco.
Friel’s dating experiment outgrew from another where she bartered social media to live for a year. She took $10 and traveled to 12 states from May 2010 to May 2011. During that time she wanted a social life, so she started dating and made those experiences a sub-project.
Over nine months Friel used the online dating site OkCupid (not a sponsor) to go on 103 dates. She had 11 second dates, six guys she slept with, and four guys she wanted more from but were “emotionally unavailable.” (To find the perfect man, she’s spent the last year working with a modern day shaman to work on herself.)
Her goal was to find a nerdy guy. And with all that dating she still wasn’t successful. And I could have thrown a bowling ball at TechCrunch Disrupt and knocked down a dozen right behind her.
Friel says she’s attracted to confident ambitious guys. “Intellectual stimulation on so many levels is the cat’s pajamas. I can’t get enough of it. The smarter the better,” she said.
Although she’s not sure whether she wants geek speak into the bedroom. “It’s more like the foreplay. I don’t think actually during sex I would enjoy that, but hey, show me what you got.”